- If I cry or get emotional when talking about Enzo, all I ask is for you to understand. The fact that he is gone is what causes my tears. Crying lessens my heart’s pain.
- All I ask is that you think of Enzo often and love him always. Always remember him and his goodness. His beauty and strength. Play with him, talk to him, hug him. He is always near….
- I have highs and lows, ups and downs. All I ask is for you to understand that if I’m smiling it doesn’t mean my pain is gone or that if I’m crying I need psychiatric counseling. I have tears behind every smile and a smile behind every tear I cry for Enzo.
- All I ask is for you to understand that the loss of a Enzo is very different than any other loss. It must be viewed separately. It is the ultimate tragedy and I ask you not to ever compare it to the loss of a mother, brother, or friend.
- Being a baby loss parent isn’t contagious. I wish you wouldn’t stay away from me. I wish you knew that all the crazy grief reactions that I’m having are, in fact, very normal. Depression, pain, anger sadness, and frustration are to be expected after our loss.
- All I ask is for you to talk about Enzo. Enzo had an amazing life and it is a story to be heard. It is Enzo’s story and I will scream it to the wind for it to be blown for all to hear. It is a story of love, beauty, strength, courage, and bravery. I want to tell the world that I am Enzo’s mother, so talk to me!
- All I ask is for you to never ask me to “move on” or “let go”. I will never. And I refuse to let you say that to me. Losing Enzo is something that will never leave my body, heart, and soul. I will never be “cured” from having lost my son… so don’t expect me to.
- I wish you understood the many reactions to my grief. I have lost weight and not slept. I don’t eat or drink. Let me be. I will forever be a “recovering” baby loss parent.
- Enzo’s birthdays, Enzo’s anniversaries, and holidays will be excruciatingly hard for us. All I ask is for you to tell me that you are thinking of Enzo and his amazing existence. If we get quiet and withdrawn, just know that we are thinking about them too and don’t force us to “have a good time”
- I wish you wouldn’t ask me to go out or to a party. I have not one bone in my body that will allow me to have fun knowing that Enzo’s gone and there is not one brain cell in my mind that would let me enjoy life when I know he can’t. Going out and having drinks would only be a temporary fix… the only way one can get through this grief is to experience it. I have to hurt before I can heal.
- All I ask is for you to not give me advice. Do not tell me what you think because you have not gone through this pain. You have not lost Enzo. We have. So keep your "he's in a better place", "everything happens for a reason", "you can have another baby soon, so you'll be okay" comments to yourself.
- I wish you understood that losing Enzo has completely changed me. I am not the same Milena I was before Enzo died, and I will never be that girl again. I am now living for my son and I dedicate every moment of my life, happiness, and love to him.
I have never loved anyone or anything more than I love my son, Enzo. I will spend the rest of my life with him by my side and in my heart, thoughts, and spirit forever. I talk to him, play with him, sing to him, sleep with him, hug him, and kiss him every day. He was born to me, existed, and will continue to live always. He is pure love and inocence. Nothing but strong and beautiful. Love him, for he is mighty.
Te amo Enzo, gordito de mi alma. Sos lo que siempre quise, lo que nunca pude tener, y lo que siempre amare. Te extraño pupo. Porfavor te pido que vengas a mis sueños hoy. Hoy necesito verte. Hoy hace 40 dias que esoty sin vos y no puedo mas. Te amo Enzo. Te amo mas de lo que pueden llegar a expresar palabras. Hijito mio, mi campeon. Te amo!
-Mama